What makes legacy families unique?

Legacy families plan, document, develop, spend quality time together and establish healthy habits and processes – including formalized, regularly scheduled family meetings. Family meetings provide an opportunity to communicate, collaborate, build trust, set goals, address conflicts, reaffirm/test assumptions for meaningful action in pursuit of the family’s goals.

Integrity - Keeping our methods in line with our mission

To build a strong and long legacy we have to make sure that our methods don't harm our mission. #FamilyBusiness

How Beats What

In healthy Family Business HOW we do things (the process by which we do things, our observable values and behaviors) is much more important than WHAT (product, content) we do.

The work we do to preserve and grow our Family Enterprise is a journey, not a destination. The process is the work.

The MERPS Icebreaker Tool

I belong to an organization that is designed to help each member do deeply personal "work" so that we can each experience what the ancient Greeks called Eudaimonia - The good life.

Our group has a few tools that we use to build and enhance our trust in each other through vulnerability.  One of the tools that I'm extra grateful for is called MERPS.  I've seen it add real value to my family and business clients.

I was first introduced to the concept by John Drury.  John and I are only acquaintances but in the little time I've been blessed to spend with him, I've come to respect John and his journey a great deal.  

John - Thanks for living big and going deep into the work and for your willingness to share your story and lessons with others!

So, what is MERPS?  It's a simple and portable tool that ask the following questions:

How are you right now?

What are you bringing to this moment?

Are you all in?

Ready and willing to give it a go?

1) Find a quiet space, get comfortable, and take a few slow deep breaths.

2) Take a look at the list below.  

For each word, ask yourself, "How am I feeling right now?  What emotion am I experiencing?  What am I bringing into this room, meeting, or moment relative to _________?”  Name the top two or three "feelings" that show up as you process each word.

Mentally

Emotionally

Relationally

Physically

Spiritually

3) Finally, after you've checked in briefly with yourself make this simple statement, "...and I'm all in."

So, what about me?  How am I today?  What am I bringing as I write this?

Mentally - I'm feeling frazzled and overwhelmed - Feel like there's a lot to get done today.

Emotionally - I'm stable.

Relationally - I'm needing deeper connection.

Physically - I'm concerned and grateful.

Spiritually - I'm prayerful.

and.... I'm all in.

Honestly, I wasn't sure what was in me this morning.  By using MERPS to check in, I'm clearer and that feels... well, good to know.  I'm now more present with what's in me, what I'm bringing to myself, others, and my work today. 

So what about you?

Are you willing to commit now to use MERPS once today and see what shows up? 

If so, would you be willing to share with someone close to you how you are feeling?

If you're willing to be bold…Would you be willing to share your MERPS in the comments section?

Are you all in? 

Let me know.  I'd love to hear how you are today.